Please read Lissa’s post, I think we go to the same self-help group
I’d written a long, chore of a post under the same title way earlier, then personally negged it because I’m not very good and making my points eloquent nor concise.
As was inevitable, my mother read my blog, had an ulcer, and then told me that she didn’t like my labeling of the “left-wing liberals”. Then she called me “a right wing republican,” and I pointed out that she is just as guilty of tossing around labels as I am. She also told me that she was surprised to see that I had these oppinions because of “how I was raised,” and that I was “priviliged to be where I am in life” because I’m caucasian. We then proceded to get in an argument, with me saying that I very well could have decided to drop out of high school to have babies, smoke crack, and go on welfare, but I decided not to because I value education and self-responsibility.
So, Lissa, I don’t really know what caused us to veer right. If I had to guess, I would say that people like me and you, and many of the responsible gunnies I know, appreciate and value responsible behavior, and I feel like I’ve learned much about responsible and sensible modes of thinking and acting on the range. Combined with living on my own and providing for myself, learning that I could be responsible enough to shoot guns made me want to act responsibly in other ways, and it also made me value self-reliance.
I’m not harboring illusions that poor people should be expected to climb out of the gutter all on their own, but I really don’t think that throwing money at the poor is not going to be a very effective aid for upward mobility. I see examples of how steady cash flows have failed to produce responsible individuals every day. I work at one of the largest universities in the country (Hook ‘em!), and I am surrounded by A LOT of undergraduate students who hail from wealthy WEALTHY families. Maybe not rolling-in-it wealthy, but wealthy enough to afford tuition, plus house their kids in new luxory highrise apartments in West Campus. In my two years of working as a TA, I have observed that most of these kids don’t have a clue about personal responsibility and view their education here as if they were at “Camp College”.
The mother pointed out that college should be a worry-free time, but I don’t think that should mean a shirking of responsibilities. Sure, I skipped classes here and there, but if a person had called me out on it, I wouldn’t have responded in the flippant manner that I’ve received upon questioning my own students. An example from my first semester of teaching the analytical chem lab:
“Soooo, how would you find the pKa value?”
(blank stares)
“C’mon. Friday’s entire lecture was about this.”
(more blank stares)
“….Did any of you go to the lecture on Friday?”
(three hands out of 18 go up)
“Only three of you went to the lecture? Where were the rest of you?”
random student: (laughs) “It was a Friday!!!”
“Sooo, you guys generally don’t go to lectures on Fridays?”
more students: (laughing) “Nope!”
This was surprising to me, and it was surprising to my mother as well, to imaging that students who were privileged enough to attend such a good university would just waste the opportunity. I feel that this pattern extends beyond students at the university and is a sympton of a larger social epidemic. Like my students who were surprised that I expected them to attend lecture, my response to this behavior was to tell them that if they’re not going to show up to receive something that has been bought and paid for, then I won’t feel the slightest bit sorry for them if they flunk, except in that I feel sorry that they couldn’t imagine that flunking would be the consequence of their actions. Of course, not all undergrads here are like this, but I see a great many who are.
I think that to most of the educated, kind-hearted liberals – such as Lissa’s and my parents, – the idea that precious resources like money and educations would be frivolously spend and wasted is inconceivable. They don’t think that because they are stupid or have their heads up their asses, but because when they look around, they are surrounded by a lot of others, who, like themselves, would NEVER waste an education. I really, REALLY wish that was the case.
“Everyone wants to have a good education,” says one of my beloved fammy members. I clearly remember thinking the same way when I was her age. And then I realized that I was being indoctrinated by a lot of unfounded material that was based on feelings and not reality or logic, and I decided to call bullshit on it.
I miss you, Lissa! Let’s start a self-help group….Conservatives from Amherst, Anon.